Q: Are you moving?
A: We have no plans of moving for now. We think having four babies is enough change for a while and don’t want to pack up and move. We have two shared nurseries and our media room has become a guest suite/ playroom. We expect to stay in our house a few years before we will need a bigger one.
Q: What kind of car do you drive?
A: We have a Honda Accord for whoever drives to work and a Volkswagen Routan for the whole family. The van fits all four infant seats, but it is tight.
Q: Are you going to quit working?
A: I have returned to work two days per week. I like to continue working a little bit to maintain my skills and as an opportunity to leave home. Also, with four babies, a little extra income does not hurt. So far it’s been manageable. Being part time makes me enjoy my job more and I love coming back home to my family.
Q: What are you doing for child care?
A: Childcare for four babies is expensive! We are fortunate enough to have several family members (my mom, George’s dad and aunt, and a few friends) who help us.
Q: Do multiples run in your family?
A: Technically, yes. I have a cousin with twins and two second cousins who have twins. George’s grandmother also had twin sisters. However, I don’t think quadruplets really run in families.
Q: Are the quads natural?
A: This is an question we hear frequently. We assume the asker is ignorant to fertility related issues and we use this question as an opportunity to educate them. First of all, by asking if the babies are natural implies they are unnatural or there is something inherently wrong with medical intervention for a medical condition. The babies are in fact, living human beings conceived via IUI.
It stands for intrauterine insemination, which is not like IVF where where eggs are removed and later implanted. Instead, I was given medication to stimulate the ovaries to release eggs and ultrasounds were used to determine when ovulation would likely occur. Then, sperm was transported via catheter at the very time when ovulation was expected. The success rate is around 15-20% per cycle so it is truly amazing that quads were conceived this way.
Occasionally someone who asks this question is actually referring to delivery. The babies were delivered via C-section as it is the safest means of delivery high order multiples.
Q: Do you have A LOT of help?
A: Not really. There is no hired help at our house. We have a lot of support from friends and family, but we’ve found that we don’t really need an entourage full time. The occasional visitor will help us with feeds or meals, but that is really the extent of it.