Four of a Kind

Sometime after discovering we were expecting quads, George researched statistics and determined the chances of conceiving quadruplets to be about one in a million.  We joked that we hit the “baby lottery”. George actually bought a lotto ticket, hoping we’d win the state lottery, but no avail.  We’ve always considered having quadruplets to be a “win”.  Keeping that in mind, I thought of the quad’s Halloween costume last year- Four of a Kind.  Actually…I’m not sure I thought of it myself. Four of a Kind is relatively common for quadruplets because In poker, four of a kind is also known as “quads”.  Anyways, I had my heart set on Four of a Kind last year, but the babies were too small for it.  This year they were just the right size.

To bring this idea to life, I picked up a package of Hanes toddler undershirts and black and red duck fabric.  George stenciled the suits and A’s onto the fabric, which we cut out.  Because I have zero sewing ability, we enlisted our friend, Marianne, to help us with that part.  She did a beautiful zig-zag stitch that should last long enough for several future generations of quadruplets to enjoy.  (Thank you, Marianne!!!)

I'm sure everyone is tired of hearing this, but taking a picture of four active toddlers together is nearly impossible!  We busted out the baby Adirondack chairs to contain them, but Mason kept escaping.

I’m sure everyone is tired of hearing this, but taking a picture of four active toddlers together is nearly impossible! We busted out the baby Adirondack chairs to contain them, but Mason kept escaping.

I’ve never been one to dress up on Halloween, but this year, I really wanted to do go all with our theme.  I went onto Amazon and scored a Poker Dealer’s hat and arm bands for George, but was a bit puzzled about what I should wear.  While perusing Amazon for George’s accessories, I noticed that the female counterpart to Poker Dealer was “Lady Luck”.  Being a spendthrift, I wasn’t about to drop any cash on ordering a costume.  Instead, I rifled through my own closet to pull something together.  I think it turned out pretty well.

Four of a Kind wouldn't be complete without a Poker Dealer and Lady Luck!

Four of a Kind wouldn’t be complete without a Poker Dealer and Lady Luck! It’s hard to see in the photo, but my hair clip is made of tiny playing cards (all aces) and poker chips.

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Once our obligatory pictures were snapped, we set out for our very first excursion as Trick or Treaters. Thankfully, Nisey and our friend, Terri, joined us. The quads are all capable walkers, but they aren’t terribly efficient yet.

Just getting out the door posed a challenge for quaddlers.

Just getting out the door posed a challenge for quaddlers.

Our first stop was across the street to Kent's house.  There, a huge bowl of peanut butter cups beckoned the quads, but they were hesitant to take any.  Eventually Sydney gingerly chose a piece and the boys joined her.

Our first stop was across the street to Kent’s house. There, a huge bowl of peanut butter cups beckoned the quads, but they were hesitant to take any. Eventually Sydney gingerly chose a piece and the boys joined her.

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Rylin protested choosing any candy and instead clung to Nisey.

Rylin, hon the other hand, protested choosing any candy and instead clung to Nisey.

Once we collected our fair share of peanut butter cups, we traveled to our next door neighbor, Kim’s house. There, Harper and Rylin had a blast picking Tootsie Rolls from her bucket and handing them to George. This ended up being our final stop as Trick or Treating was hard work this year.

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Kim snuggled Sydney while the others picked through the candy bucket.

Kim snuggled Sydney while the others picked through the candy bucket.

Each time Harper spied a bowl of candy a mischievous look swept over his face.

Each time Harper spied a bowl of candy a mischievous look swept over his face.

Each year, George prides himself in being the most decorated house on the block and this year was no exception.  He laced our bushes with bright orange, purple, and lime lights, hung large letters reading “BOO” from our porch, and giant spiders crawling in our bushes.  I didn’t snap a picture this year, but it looked similar to last Halloween. A few years ago, George and I grew weary of popping up from the sofa to dole out candy to voracious Trick or Treaters.  Not to mention, it drove our fur babies insane hearing the door bell ring and rapping on the door.  We began putting a baby gate in our doorway and posting up in the dining room.  That allowed us to enjoy our traditional Halloween dinner (chili dogs and chips) while we greeted little spooks.  Our usual plan worked perfectly for the quads.  They had a fantastic time playing in an otherwise forbidden part of our home while also checking out all the visitors through the window.

Every year, George insists on putting skeleton bones out as part of his decor.  I absolutely loathe the horrid things, but it's a losing battle for me.  George let the quads play with them and it looked a little grisly.

Every year, George insists on putting skeleton bones out as part of his decor. I absolutely loathe the horrid things, but it’s a losing battle for me. George let the quads play with them and it looked a little grisly.

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Lily took her role as official family greeter and hopped up at the edge of the gate with each new wave of Trick or Treaters.

Lily took her role as official family greeter and hopped up at the edge of the gate with each new wave of Trick or Treaters.

Even though four babies toddled around the foyer and hundreds of kids visited us, Sasha found it fitting for a siesta.

Even though four babies toddled around the foyer and hundreds of kids visited us, Sasha found it fitting for a siesta.

 

 

When I was a kid, mom always made a pumpkin shaped cake of two bundt cakes.  She made it once again for the quads.

When I was a kid, mom always made a pumpkin shaped cake of two bundt cakes. She made it once again for the quads.

 

What do you think the quads should be next year for Halloween?

Hugs!

 

Amber

Confessions of a Pastor’s Family {Guest Post}

My cousin, Jennifer, recently joined me as a blogger when she launched her blog, Confessions of a Pastor’s Family.  If you are looking for a juicy scandal or dirt on a Pastor’s family, this isn’t the place to look.  Instead, you’ll find a beautifully written account of how a pastor’s family lives.  Jennifer shares what makes them a family just like any other.  They do not claim to be perfect, but are raising their children to be believers who are kind to others and gracious stewards.

Last weekend, Jennifer and I took our children for a community service activity, and she kindly let me share the story on her blog.  Please stop by Confessions of a Pastor’s Family to see what we were up to last weekend.

Thanks to Jennifer, we were able to get a decent family picture with the quads in their Halloween duds.

Thanks to Jennifer, we were able to get a decent family picture with the quads in their Halloween duds.

 

hugs!

 

Amber

Toddler Tips #25: No More Slippin’

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With each passing day, I find myself trying to solve some new challenge with raising four toddlers, aka “quaddlers”.  They are a cunning lot who inspires a little ingenuity on my part (and George’s) just to manage day to day life.  While my ideas are born from being surrounded by four toddlers, I think many of them could be helpful to any parents of little ones so I’m sharing.

Last week, I shared my tip for holding off the pee pee flood gates in the bath tub.  Several of you noticed our huge bathtub mat in the picture I posted.  Which brings me to another tip.  When the babies transitioned from bath seats to sitting independently, it became apparent that the tub floor was too slippery for them.  I picked up a bath mat at Target, but was dismayed when it would not stick to the texture on our bathtub floor.  I tried putting a bath towel down, but it floated up and made a huge mess for me to contend with.

No matter how hard I tried, this mat would not stick to our bathtub and instead floated up, making an even bigger slip hazard.

No matter how hard I tried, this mat would not stick to our bathtub and instead floated up, making an even bigger slip hazard.

That’s when the idea struck, I simply turned the mat we had so it stuck on the sides of the bath tub rather than the floor.  It worked perfectly!  However, it did not cover near enough real estate for multiple babies in the bath tub.  I picked up a second mat and now they are flush against each other, creating a large area.

What appears to be an oversize bathmat, is actually two identical bathmats.

What appears to be an oversize bathmat, is actually two identical bathmats.

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Anna, from All Bad Things Must End, shared her favorite toddler bath tip and I gave it a whirl.  While the bath water was running, I attempted to sit the babies on the toilet (individually of course) without a diaper to encourage them to urinate on the toilet.  It didn’t go so well.  Rylin had a major meltdown complete with back arching and wailing.  The other three sat a little more willingly, but no action.  I’m not throwing in the towel on this one yet.  I will revisit this idea in a few months because I think it’s a brilliant way to begin the concept of toilet training.  I will also try it with a toddler seat, I think the seat would make a huge difference, but I just don’t have one yet.  Thank you for sharing, Anna!

What is your favorite toddler tip?

hugs,

Amber

Picky Palates, Pleased! {Good Groceries review}

Toddlerhood (or quaddlerhood in our house) is a time of many transitions from being a baby to a big kid.  This is especially apparent with feeding.  The days of bottles and thin purees are a thing of the past.  I knew spoon feeds were over when Harper started letting whatever was on his spoon drop from his mouth, filling his bib.  He quickly asserted his independence and insisted upon self feeding.  That doesn’t mean that feeding is necessarily more simple.  The quads are limited in what they can self feed since they have approximately eight teeth a piece and have finicky toddler palates to boot.

What the quads will eat varies from day-to-day.  For example, steamed carrots are usually a fan favorite, but they’ve been refused with animosity as well.  Plus, each of the quads has his or her own opinions about food.  Mason would be content to survive on fruit and yogurt alone while Sydney prefers protein and carbohydrates.

There is one thing they all consistently agree upon: cookies and crackers.  All four know how to sign, “more”, (“please” is emerging also) but they only sign for desired items.  When we were given an opportunity to sample a line of organic and natural snack items under the Suzie’s brand from Good Groceries, I jumped at the chance.  When feeding the quads, I prefer to avoid additives and preservatives as much as possible, and Good Groceries has the same philosophy.

I was puzzled when our UPS driver delivered a giant box to our doorstep a few weeks back. We order many things online, but I could not recall ordering anything of this size.  I excitedly sliced the tape off the top and peeled back the box top to find our shipment of snacks from Good Groceries.  They generously provided us with an assortment of their snack crackers and milk alternatives.  I was expecting something, but did not anticipate getting to sample so many products from their Suzie’s brand.

Our shipment included: cilantro naan crackers, plain unsweetened quinoa milk, vanilla sweetened quinoa milk, vanilla unsweetened quinoa milk, sesame kamut flatbread, ancient grain flatbread, breadsticks, olive oil crackers, rosemary sesame crackers, tomato oregano crackers, sourdough puffed rice crackers, ancient multigrain crackers, baby biscuits, thin cakes with sesame, and salted thin cakes.

Our shipment included: cilantro/ garlic/ green chili naan crackers, plain unsweetened quinoa milk, vanilla sweetened quinoa milk, vanilla unsweetened quinoa milk, sesame kamut flatbread, ancient grain flatbread, breadsticks, olive oil crackers, rosemary sesame crackers, tomato oregano crackers, sourdough puffed rice crackers, ancient multigrain crackers, baby biscuits, thin cakes with sesame, and salted thin cakes.

Shortly after our box arrived, it was coincidentally snack time.  Thus, we began our taste test with the baby biscuits.  Before giving the babies anything, I always sample first to make sure it’s okay.  I was pleasantly surprised by the light shortbread flavor and soft texture of the baby biscuits.  I hate to admit it, but I scarfed a few of these myself! They crumbled with ease so they would be safe for babies with few (or no) teeth.  Apparently the babies agreed as they gobbled the biscuits up and eagerly signed “more, please” repeatedly.  Needless to say, the baby biscuits did not last long in our house.

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As I snapped this picture, Rylin became impatient and attempted to grab the entire box for herself (she didn’t realize the contents were in the white bag centered on the table).

Sydney tends to be the most challenging to please, but she scarfed the baby biscuits as well as anyone else.

Sydney tends to be the most challenging to please, but she signed “more” for these with gusto.

In our house, we go through 3-4 gallons of cow’s milk per week. Since it takes up too much space in our refrigerator, we have to make multiple trips to the grocery store to keep the milk flowing. Sometimes, we run out of milk in the day so I keep a variety of milk alternatives that do not require refrigeration (until opened) on hand. I had no idea quinoa milk existed prior to receiving some. It is definitely another option or us to keep on hand for the days when cow’s milk is gone.

In our house, we go through 3-4 gallons of cow's milk per week.  Since it takes up too much space in our refrigerator, we have to make muliple trips to the grocery store to keep the milk flowing.  Sometimes, we run out of milk in the day so I keep a variety of milk alternatives that do not require refrigeration (until opened) on hand.  I had no idea quinoa milk existed prior to receiving some.  It is ideal for us to keep on hand for the days when cow's milk is gone.

Thankfully, we don’t have any dietary restrictions, but for those who do, quinoa milk is dairy and gluten free, and is also vegan.

I found the quinoa milk to have a rich, nutty flavor and wasn't sure the babies would approve.  They did!  The boys gulped it just like they do with cow's milk!    They even enjoyed the unsweetened version.

I found the quinoa milk to have a rich, nutty flavor and wasn’t sure the quads would approve. They did! The boys gulped it just like they do with cow’s milk! They even enjoyed the unsweetened version.

I'm personally not a big milk drinker, but I enjoy the occasional bowl of cereal for breakfast.  I thought the nutty flavor of quinoa milk was a nice balance for slightly sweet cereal.

I’m personally not a big milk drinker, but I enjoy the occasional bowl of cereal for breakfast. I thought the nutty flavor of quinoa milk was a nice balance for slightly sweet cereal.

All of the saltine crackers are packaged into four packs, which is perfect for making quick lunches or tossing in the diaper bag.  Four packs are always a winner with quads!

All of the saltine crackers are packaged into portion sized four packs, which is perfect for making quick lunches or tossing in the diaper bag. Four packs are always a winner with quads!  Plus, portion sized packages keep crackers from going stale.

The herbal flavors in the saltines paired well with crudites and cheese.

Each of the saltines paired well with crudites and cheese (any variety).  I especially enjoyed the herb flavored crackers- tomato & oregano and rosemary & sesame.  They were flavorful alone, but nice compliments to spreads.

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Sydney LOVED Suzie’s saltines and sourdough rice tops so much, she swiped one from Rylin. Notice, she has one in her fist and the other gripped between her teeth.

The babies screeched and begged for more rice thins at each snack time.  Unlike other rice cakes, Suzie's are extremely thin and soft enough for babies to munch.  As a decadent treat for myself, I spread chocolate hazlenut spread over them.  They were also tasty with peanut butter, which is a protein source I love for the quads.

The babies screeched and begged for more thin cakes at each snack time. Unlike typical puffed crackers, Suzie’s are extremely thin and soft enough for babies to munch. As a decadent treat for myself, I spread chocolate hazelnut spread over them. They were also tasty with peanut butter, which is a protein source go-to for the quads.

The naan crackers were the perfect companion for my crock pot green chicken chili.

The naan crackers were the perfect companion for my crock pot green chicken chili on a cool fall night.  Rylin caught me snacking on them one day and plead for a taste.  I was a little hesitant due to the heat in them, but she said, “Mmmm!” and signed “more please”.  I guess she is a true Texan with a pepper belly.

George and I found the flatbread perfect with our Greek pasta salad and homemade hummus.

George and I found the flatbread perfect with our Greek pasta salad and homemade hummus.  Just like with the crackers, they were flavorful enough alone, but paired well with spreads.

So what about nutritional value?  Suzie’s brand uses ancient grains: quinoa, kamut, spelt, buckwheat, and oats as well as flax, sesame, and poppy seeds.  Therefore, I was pleased to find at least two to three grams of protein in each serving.  Because these are snacks, they aren’t totally void of sodium, sugar, and carbohydrates, but these less desirable ingredients are minimal.  Therefore, I felt confident feeding them to the quads.  Best of all, our entire family enjoyed the products we sampled.

Suzie’s brand products can be found nationwide at supermarket, natural, specialty, and club stores, in addition to online at amazon.com and goodgroceries.com.  Because many of our household items are purchased via Amazon, I was very happy to know we could buy refills of our favorite Suzie’s items there.

hugs!

Amber

P. S. I would like to thank Good Groceries for kindly providing the array of snacks for us to sample and review.  No other compensation was provided.  All thoughts and opinions are 100% my own.

Toddler Tips #1: Tinkle Catcher

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I’m ecstatic to launch our new series, Toddler Tips.  With each passing day, I find myself trying to solve some new challenge with raising four toddlers, aka “quaddlers”.  They are a cunning lot who inspires a little ingenuity on my part (and George’s) just to manage day to day life.  While my ideas are born from being surrounded by four toddlers, I think many of them could be helpful to any parents of little ones.

Dating all the way back to the days of the NICU, I can recall that all four of our children have peed in their bathwater.  As soon as their little piggy toes make contact with the water, the flood gates open.  When they were tiny infants it didn’t bother me too much.  Perhaps because I expected the volume was small, or maybe because they were in the infant tub and got their own fresh water.  Once they could sit up, we began pairing them up or even dunking all four in the same water.  The thought of bathing in urine, especially someone else’s disgusts me.

While the babies were in the NICU, we bathed them in tiny plastic tubs.  It's incredible that they fit into those things.

While the babies were in the NICU, we bathed them in tiny plastic tubs. It’s incredible that they fit into those things.

We used bath seats like this when they could sit up, but not with the buoyancy of water.

We used bath seats like this when they could sit up, but not with the buoyancy of water.

Alas, a four baby dunk.

Alas, a four baby dunk.

Then the idea struck!  Now, I dress them down to their diapers and stand them in the water for a few seconds before removing the diaper.  Before I totally remove the diaper, I peel back the tabs just to make sure they’re done.  Voila!  No more pee pee in the water (they could tinkle a little more, but this prevents the flood gates at least).  I always check for two minor details 1. check the diaper to make sure it’s not soiled 2. don’t let them sit prematurely.

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Stay tuned for more toddler tips. There’s good stuff coming because necessity is the mother of invention!  If you have any toddler tips of your own, I’d love to hear them.  If I try a great one, I’ll feature it and give credit where it’s due.  I’m always open to ingenious ideas.

hugs!

Amber

Adventures in Legoland

I feel very fortunate to have the Bell family nearby so that we can share the experience of parenting quadruplets and the babies can be raised with other quadruplets.  It normalizes the experience so much.  We’ve taken turns hosting play dates in our homes, and it’s always been great.  Now that we have toddlers, Amber suggested taking the quads for a play date away from home.  Naturally, any type of outing means a great deal of planning and W-O-R-K, but I thought it was brilliant.  I sequestered the assistance of my friend, Kristin, on a day when Amber’s nanny was available.  Thus, four of us set out to take eight babies to Legoland.

In case you ever wondered, this is what four twin strollers filled with eight babies looks like.  I do not envy Nadia Soulman one bit, eight babies is  A LOT of babies!

In case you ever wondered, this is what four twin strollers filled with eight babies looks like. Amber said it looked like a Combi convention since we have four of the same model stroller.  Maybe the two of us can start hosting “Combi Cons”.

Since we were all Leogland rookies, no one knew quite what to expect.  After purchasing our tickets, the 12 of us were greeted by electronic doors leading us into a Lego factory where a “Professor” greeted us and explained how Legos are made.  While the babies probably had no idea what the Professor was saying, they seemed to enjoy watching Legos progress through the factory, except when the batch spilled into a bucket causing a commotion.

Following our tour, we were led to an area of low light surrounded by several long ramps cordoned off by ropes.  There, a zealous pair enthusiastically greeted us and directed us to park our strollers in the “stroller park” as if this was the protocol for entry.  I’m sure the four adults in our group stared at this pair gobsmacked trying to work out how we’d manage to park four twin strollers and lead eight babies (with various levels of mobility) up a series of ramps.  Somehow we learned the ramps lead to a ride so I inquired whether it was appropriate for babies to which they replied, “everyone is welcome”.  Still the four adults were hesitant to 1. park our strollers 2. heave all the baby gear 3. lead eight babies up ramps 4. take babies on a mysterious ride.  About twenty questions in we knew it would be startling for the little ones so we opted out.

Apparently each Legoland boasts a miniature of the city where it is located.  We were thoroughly impressed with the Lego version of Dallas-Fort Worth, which was complete with Cowboy Stadium, Southfork Ranch, and my favorite, Reunion Tower.  While looking at Legos is interesting, it doesn’t help harness toddler energy.

Amber and I both snapped pictures of the babies next to Cowboy Stadium for the Quad Fathers.

Amber and I both snapped pictures of the babies next to Cowboy Stadium for the Quad Fathers.

Within the play area, we stumbled upon a giant pit of rubber Legos.  In multiples fashion, we overtook this area by encircling the pit with our strollers and dumping eight babies inside.  Our gaggle of babies undoubtedly confused the other patrons.  Most people presumed we were a twin play group, which was probably far less novel than when they realized it was two sets of quads.  Amber’s nanny dared me to claim all eight as octuplets, but there’s no way I could have done that with a straight face.  It was a humorous thought.

I think eight babies in a Lego pit is about capacity.

I think eight babies in a Lego pit is about capacity.

Well, maybe one baby was upset for a bit.  Thankfully this lasted only momentarily.

Someone was not keen on the Lego pit. Thankfully this lasted only momentarily.

I'm not sure that Kristin knew what she signed up for, but she was an amazing help during this excursion.

I’m not sure that Kristin knew what she signed up for, but she was an amazing help during this excursion.

Everyone had an opportunity to go out with just one sibling to explore and practice mobility.  I was especially proud of Sydney who began standing unassisted.

Everyone had an opportunity to go out with just one sibling to explore and practice mobility. I was especially proud of Sydney who finally began standing unassisted.

Each of the babies had a turn on the spiral slide with their mommy.  I snapped a picture of Amber & Logan.

Each of the babies had a turn on the spiral slide with their mommy. I snapped a picture of Amber & Logan.

The babies did really well handling the small Leogs and attempted connecting them.

The babies did really well handling the small Leogs and attempted connecting them.  They all tasted said small Legos, but we tried to ignore the thought of germ infestation.

I was extremely proud of all of the babies.  They explored their surroundings and remained calm during our stay with only a few exceptions.  After about an hour, the adults were totally drained so we gathered our troops and headed to the food court.  By that time, the babies were so exhausted, a few of them nodded off during lunch.  It was a successful adventure for all!

This is how you feed eight babies in a food court.  No need for strollers- simply dish out finger foods and strap sippy cups onto the stroller.  I love that these strollers have three snack catch/ drink holders per stroller.

This is how you feed eight babies in a food court. No need for strollers- simply dish out finger foods and strap sippy cups onto the stroller. I love that these strollers have three snack catch/ drink holders per stroller. (Sydney is craning her neck to see the carousel behind the strollers).

Since the babies seemed more interested in Legos than ever before, we had a little Legoland experience at home today.  I gated off our hallway, shut the doors and put only Legos Mega Blocks and their accessories out.  This kept the babies occupied nearly 30 minutes.

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Today, Harper worked very hard to attach blocks together.

Today, Harper worked very hard to attach blocks together.

After our DIY Legoland, we worked on putting everything back in the bag.  The babies did pretty well with this, but once all pieces were in the bag they tried to take them back out.

After our DIY Legoland, we worked on putting everything back in the bag. The babies did pretty well with this, but once all pieces were in the bag they tried to take them back out.

Where is your favorite place to take toddlers?

hugs!

Amber

Fall Festival

My parents have been loyal members of the same church for over thirty years.  Consequently, Courtney and I grew up with a rather large extended church family, who has supported us even as we’ve grown up and moved away.  Long before the babies ever arrived, they prayed for our family, sewed a prayer blanket, donated secondhand baby necessities, and hosted diaper drives.  In fact, they donated so many diapers that we bought very few in the babies’ first year.  However, due to lock down and challenges of traveling, the babies just recently made their first appearance at this church for a special occasion: The Fall Festival.

The Fall Festival is the church’s sole fundraiser, which occurs each September.  Since it was once coordinated by my father, it’s nostalgic for both Courtney and I.  I fondly recall the days when our dance class provided entertainment, we collected game prizes, and I served pizza in the rain with mom.  I’d say it’s the church version of the state fair complete with fairway games, a petting zoo, informational booths, fried food, an auction, and crafts for sale.

We were able to get one whole group shot of our family.

We were able to get one whole group shot of our family.

Surprisingly, I look forward to the Fall Festival especially because I know it’s the single best place to get made-to-order egg rolls, and they cost a buck!  I’ve always secretly loved the rummage sale too.  It’s one of the largest garage sales in the state, filling an entire basketball gym with a menagerie of stuff.  Granted, the majority of the rummage sale is usually junk, treasure always lies beneath, and the hunt is exhilarating.  This year, my shopping time was minimal, but I scored pajamas for each of the girls for just $.50!  This year, the best part of the Fall Festival was fellowship with people we’ve known for years, yet haven’t seen in quite a while.  Without a doubt there were no grandparents prouder than Grandpa and Nisey.  They beamed each time they met a friend meeting the quads for the first time.

Grandpa discovered a more efficient way to carry Harper.

Grandpa discovered a more efficient way to carry Harper through the rummage sale.

I thought the babies would be interested in the petting zoo since they've mastered animal sounds.  Not quite.

I thought the babies would be interested in the petting zoo since they’ve mastered animal sounds. Not quite.

Rylin did not take a nap on the way to church and was downright crabby.  Nisey finally found a maraca in the rummage sale that appeased her.

Rylin did not take a nap on the way to church and was downright crabby. Nisey finally found a maraca in the rummage sale that appeased her.

Typical Mason flirted with everyone he met, flashing those two dimples happily.

Typical Mason flirted with everyone he met, flashing those two dimples happily.

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hugs!

 

Amber

Every Wink Counts

B. Q. (Before Quadruplets), I blissfully enjoyed a solid eight uninterrupted hours of sleep each night.  Plus, I almost always snagged a quick power nap when I arrived home from work.  On the weekends, George and I routinely enjoyed leisurely mornings, sleeping past our usual alarm clock wakings.  Oh how I loved sleep!

While I was pregnant with the quadruplets, I adopted the sleeping habits of a house cat (i.e. I slept more hours in a 24 hour period than I was awake).  After delivery, I was in for a rude awakening when my sleep habits were forced into a tailspin. Even while the babies were in the NICU, I woke around the clock to pump for them.  For me, sleep occurred in two hour bursts at best.  I was astonished that it was even possible to function on such little sleep. I was “functioning”, but that was about it.  Some days it was surprising that I accomplished anything.  With such poor quality sleep, I found myself doing goofy things such as wearing my sweater backwards to work, speaking incoherent rubbish, and forgetting to refrigerate the milk I pumped in the night.  Having four babies in the NICU was exhausting and brutal for sleep, but once they arrived home matters did not improve.  With four babies home, George and I woke together round the clock to feed and care for them.  We found our Keurig coffee maker to be our most beloved appliance.  I never drank coffee B. Q., but found myself dependent upon just one cup to manage early morning feedings and such (I still have a coffee habit that I may never shake).

Out of pure necessity, to restore one of our most precious commodities, George and I sleep trained the babies when they were about four months old.  After many grueling sleepless nights, we once again slept in longer than three hour intervals.  We even clocked a minimum of six hours per night without disruption!  Soon they began sleeping well over eight hours per night without bothering us.  Still, they are fantastic sleepers, generally snoozing 11-12 hours without so much as a peep.  That does not imply that we are sleeping 12 hours, or even the eight we desire.  Having toddlers in our home means that few chores, or anything leisurely occurs during their wake time hours.  All day long, we are working to care for them and provide an enriching environment.  Once they are safely tucked into their cribs each night, George and I have much to accomplish.  Around 8:00 pm, we enjoy our dinner together then tick off a few chores before we can hopefully relax with a television show or novel.  Most nights, our bedtime is around 11:00 pm, and occasionally we don’t even pad off to bed until close to midnight, only to wake in the morning to four bright eyed toddlers.  I would love to sleep a luxurious eight or more hours per night, but at this point it’s unlikely.  As a result, George and I fiercely try to preserve the sanctity of the precious winks we do get each night.  I was ecstatic when Silksleep offered to let me try one of their 100% pure mulberry silk sleep masks.

I always think its a treat to get something from overseas, especially when it comes from "Royal Mail".  It makes me feel cultured or something.

I always think its a treat to get something from overseas, especially when it comes from “Royal Mail”. It makes me feel cultured or something.

I think the Ivory silk with chocolate trim has a sophisticated appearance.

I think the Ivory silk with chocolate trim has a sophisticated appearance, and I really like the black bag for storage.  Goodness knows I don’t want little fingers tampering with my mask.

Back in the days when George and I traveled, I always packed a sleep mask and miniature fan in my suitcase for good measure.  When you’re away from home you can never count on having an environment conducive to sleep, but white noise and darkness generally help.  Whenever I know someone admitted to the hospital (especially for an extended stay), I bring them a sleep mask and ear plugs if they do not have one because hospitals are notoriously bright and loud.   I certainly appreciated those two things during my brief stint in the hospital.  However, I never once considered wearing a sleep mask in the comfort of my home.  And, the sleep mask I previously owned was some cheap cloth with elastic from a discount retailer.  I always thought our bedroom was perfectly arranged for good sleep, but Silksleep changed my opinion.

The night my Silksleep mask arrived was ideal for my first experience with it.  Earlier in the day, I took the quads for a play date with the Bell Quad Squad, and needless to say I was completely drained of energy.  Play dates are fantastic for the quads and me, but eight babies have a way of zapping even the most lively person of energy.  To relax my mind, I read a chapter of my Sophie Kinsella novel then asked George to snap a picture of me before calling it a night.

For my first night test driving my Silksleep mask, I thought my "Got Quads" t-shirt was apropos.

For my first night test driving my Silksleep mask, I thought my “Got Quads” t-shirt was apropos.

I found it nearly impossible to take a picture with the numbers visible on my alarm clock.  If you squint a bit, you may notice it says 11:31 pm.  That's typically about the time I turn in for the night.  Late.

I found it nearly impossible to take a picture with the numbers visible on my alarm clock. If you squint a bit, you may notice it says 11:31 pm. That’s typically about the time I turn in for the night. Late.

The first night wearing my Silksleep mask was divine!  I was totally exhausted and drifted right off to sleep almost immediately.  I woke the next morning still wearing it and feeling refreshed.

If there’s one thing that always makes us appreciate how well our babies sleep, it’s rough ones.  Thanks to stuffy noses and teething, the past week hasn’t been conducive to sleep.  The quads have literally taken turns ensuring George and I find our sleep interrupted at least two or three times per night.  The challenge of waking from a deep slumber to tend to a baby is getting back to sleep.  My sleep mask proved very helpful in returning to sleep.  When I go to bed I’m usually unaware of all the lights illuminating our bedroom.  The street lights spill through the curtains and all of our various electronic devices shed green hues about the room.  In the wee hours of the morning, these lights are glaringly intrusive to returning to sleep, but my Silksleep mask blocked it all out, allowing me to return to a peaceful state faster.  With so many nights of babies going bump in the night, I found myself needing a bit of a power nap while they take their afternoon nap.  My Silksleep mask is fantastic for that too!  No better way to block out the afternoon sunshine than with a mask!  I’m hopeful that the babies’ stuffy noses will soon heal and their teeth will finally erupt so we all get back to our sleep utopia.  However, I’ve been really pleased with my sleep mask especially for those pesky middle of the night wakings and much needed naps.  Even the night I slept without disruptions, I believe my mask helped me maintain a peaceful sleep.

I haven’t had my mask long enough to attest to this yet, but Silksleep’s masks are designed to help skin retain moisture and reduce the appearance of fine lines.  Given my state of sleep deprivation, I’m certainly hopeful!  I dutifully slather on eye cream before heading off to bed.

What measures do you take to help ensure a good night’s rest?

P. S. If you’d like to try one of Silksleep’s luxurious sleep masks or any of their other silk bed linens (they have an array of bed linens and other sleep accessories), they are extending a special offer: 10% off orders from our readers.  Simply enter ADORE10 as a promotional code at checkout.

I would like to extend a special thank you to Silksleep for providing me with one of their 100% silk sleep masks for review.  I received no other compensation and all opinions expressed are 100% my own.

The Little Things Thursdays: Installment #34

In honor of Thursday, it’s time to link up with A Beautiful Ruckus as we recall the little things that brightened our week.

1.  Three times is a charm for scheduling quad play dates.  Since our quad buddies, The Bell Quad Squad, settled into their new home, we’ve been trying to arrange a play date.  Thanks to toddler hood and increased outings, both sets of quads have gotten a few colds, causing us to postpone.  On Monday, it FINALLY happened!  I brought the babies for their first play date in the Bell Romper room (e.g. amazing, over sized quad-proof living room).   The babies and I always enjoy time outside of our home, exploring new places.  There’s no place better to visit than the home of other multiples.  The Bell home is equipped with everything we need from four pack ‘n’ plays to a quad table.  Plus, other parents of multiples are tolerant of multiples.  For example, Amber wasn’t ruffled when three of my four screamed bloody murder after being put down for nap.  Amber and I really enjoyed each other’s company and have exciting plans for another play date in the near future.  Stay tuned for that!

The Quad Squad has many familiar toys and some novel ones too.  The babies enjoyed playing with this toy, which is identical to one we used to have (I got antsy and purged it a few months ago).  They LOVED seeing it again.

The Quad Squad has many familiar toys and some novel ones too. The babies enjoyed playing with this toy, which is identical to one we used to have (I got antsy and purged it a few months ago). They LOVED seeing it again.

Capturing four toddlers in a single picture proved impossible.  This was my best attempt.  I spy seven babies and it looks like total mayhem.

Capturing four toddlers in a single picture proved impossible. This was my best attempt. I spy seven babies and it looks like total mayhem.

For lunch time, each set of quads took turns in the quad table.  I thought it was cute how they peered at each other through the bars on the fence as if they were jailbirds.

For lunch time, each set of quads took turns in the quad table. I thought it was cute how they peered at each other through the bars on the fence as if they were jailbirds.

2.  With the promise of fall weather coming, I brought the babies’ fall clothing boxes down, washed and sorted everything.  My friend, Jen, helped me work on the girls portion Tuesday and I was incredibly thankful for that!  I started going batty trying to match twin sets, coordinated outfits, and sort by size and gender.  With each seasonal change, I find the task of clothing transitions daunting.  At the same time, I am overjoyed with the generosity of our friends and family who clothe our babies with gifts and hand-me-downs.  We are abundantly blessed by others, and in turn we are able to share our things with many other families behind us.

As I sorted, babies had fun jumping onto the clothes pile and carrying items away.  Harper was a willing model to try new sizes from our fall collection.

As I sorted, babies had fun jumping onto the clothes pile and carrying items away. Harper was a willing model to try new sizes from our fall collection.

3.  We order many things for our home online these days so we are no stranger to UPS boxes.  This week, I was delighted to find an unexpected delivery all the way from Italy.  My mom’s cousin, Debbie, sent us these stunning blown glass turtle figurines.  She told us that she spotted them in a store front window and immediately recalled our sea turtle story.  There’s nothing that warms my heart more than when seeing sea turtles remind others of our story.

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I found the perfect place for our new turtles in the entry way below our family portraits.

4. Since Mason’s plagiocephaly was corrected by his DOC band, he was given a formal assessment by Early Childhood Intervention this morning.  I was so proud of our little man.  He worked very hard to follow directions and scored within his age range or above in all areas.  Therefore, he’s graduated from Early Childhood Intervention services!  Hooray!!!

What brought you joy this week?

hugs,

Amber

P.S. I’d like to extend a thank you to the Itz, Reese, Clements, McKenzie, Lawson, and Parr families for sharing their clothes with us!  You should be seeing some of your clothes show up on our babies in the near future.

Why Parenting is like Religion & Politics

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Since joining the ranks of parenthood, I am painfully aware of how parenting choices and styles are polarizing, much like religion and politics.  Everyone has an opinion and naturally theirs is THE ONE.  Each day when I log on to my Facebook account, I am assaulted by the plethora of shared posts that make claims of how and why parents should do certain things, or not.  Everyone seems to have a strong opinion about all things parenting from when to introduce solid foods to when kids should start school.    I’m not talking about when people share tips/ tricks about what they find helpful (isn’t that what I often do here?).  One can simply take or leave such advice, that’s simple.  I’m referring more to articles that put down other methods and claim to monopolize the truth or attempt to make other parents feel insecure about their decisions.  The majority of the time, I find that posts or articles of this nature are not substantiated by scientific research, but are mere opinions of the authors.  I feel confident in the parenting choices I make with my spouse, carefully discerning what’s best for us.  I don’t think my children need to be saved from our parenting style.

Here’s the deal: when it comes to your kids, I think you should have opinions about what you chose to do and what fits your family’s needs, and those decisions should be well thought.  However, I’m baffled at the way some parents stake righteous claims, putting down and sometimes condemning the choices of others.  Like so many things in life, there are multiple ways to parent a child.  While one method may work perfectly for your family, it may not be the best means for another.

For example, George and I found Babywise to be helpful to us in getting our quadruplets to sleep through the night and follow a schedule.  We did not follow it strictly, but we used it to inspire our parenting choices, and it worked well for us.  I felt highly insulted when a friend posted claims and articles about how Babywise was abusive and caused psychological damage. On the other hand, another friend publicly admitted she planned to be a “Babywise Mom”, but did everything just the opposite.  She did not condemn Babywise at all, but instead admitted she found another way that worked for her family.  I appreciated her take immensely.  Will I follow her lead and co bed and feed on demand?  Nope.  Do I respect her decision? Absolutely!

Another hot button issue for me is about when to turn car seats around.  There is currently a buzz about keeping children rear facing until school age.  I agree it is probably best practice; however in accordance with both our vehicle and car seat manufacturer’s guidelines (age and weight requirements), we turned two of our car seats around.  Gasp! I know, they’re under age two, and that’s not what many are recommending.  At the same time, rear facing four toddlers is a monumental task.  With all four no longer in infant seats, we were forced to load two babies via the back hatch and pull dangerous Gumby maneuvers to do it.  Thanks to my Diastasis Recti, my back radiated pain with each loading/ unloading.  Furthermore, keeping a rear facing seat behind the driver meant the driver could not safely operate the accelerator and breaks because the driver’s seat was so close to the steering wheel.  Really, aside from a daycare van, no vehicle is intended to hold four infant seats anyways.  Some may say we’re making excuses.  Okay.  I’d say we are making a choice that works for our family, and we’re comfortable with it.  There are plenty more examples, but I’m sure you get the point by now.

Earlier in the week, I posted about 5 Things I’d NEVER do.  Reflecting on our current family status, it became apparent to me that my viewpoints, habits, and decisions changed drastically after having quadruplets.  There is absolutely no way to know what you may or may not do in a given situation until you are in it.  So why pass judgements?  Even parents of high order multiples the same age as ours may find different methods work best for their family.  That’s because each family is absolutely unique.

When it comes down to it, I believe that parents attempt to force their opinions on others as a means of validation that they are right, and it’s easy to hide behind online means to do it.  Instead, I’d love to see parents make their own decisions, sharing what they find helpful and simply respect the parenting styles of their peers who differ.  I know I shouldn’t get ruffled when I see polarizing posts, I just wish others would share their views in a less judgmental, black/ white way sometimes.

What parenting choices have you made that were criticized by others?

hugs,

Amber